Saving A Relationship - How To Decide Whether Its Worth It

It is hard to be happy and enjoy life if your relationship or marriage is rocky. Do not procrastinate, evaluate the pros and cons of saving a relationship while there is still something to salvage. Putting it off only delays your return to happy, healthy living and the enjoyment of being with someone you love.

All relationships go through ups and downs much like an airplane can be flying through smooth skies one minute and hit a patch of turbulence the next. The key is to avoid flying into a thunderstorm capable of tearing the airplane apart. If you hit enough storms in your time together, you may end up wondering if it is worth it.

Saving a relationship ordinarily is very worth it. Here is the thing: if you are not dedicated enough to try saving this relationship, are you dedicated enough to making the next one work? If you are looking for a relationship that requires no work on your part you will be disappointed again and again.

If after trying the best you can it still does not work out, then you can part ways knowing that is what was best and never look back and wonder "gee, what if I would have tried harder?".

Here is some help to know the answer.

To help you determine whether you want to go through with saving the marriage or relationship, try this exercise. Get a piece of paper and pen and write down a list of the people you enjoy being with. Is your spouse or partner on that list? If not, why not?

What kinds of things do you enjoy doing with people on that list? When was the last time you and your significant other did something like that together?

Ask yourself if it would still be possible for the two of you to do those things that you enjoy, and just enjoy each others company for a few hours. Can you do that with just the two of you or does having fun require other people to be around?

Think about the answers to those questions as you decide if your marriage or relationship is worth saving.

Let us go another direction. Do you feel that you and your partner really connect and understand one another? Sometimes couples even say that they end up finishing each others sentences, and that is a good thing, as long as one of you does not consider that to be "interrupting".

Next you might look at trust. Both of you need to be able to trust each other, in general terms and specific terms. If there has been infidelity or another serious breach of trust then that has to be worked through successfully in order for the relationship to survive; but that is another topic I have written on in other articles.

Trust emanates from a mutual respect and admiration of the other person. If you respect him or her and find many qualities in them to admire then you likely will trust him or her also. This is foundational to a long term relationship.

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Mr. Scott has enjoyed assisting people with relationship and marriage issues for many years now. Please note that he may occasionally receive some form of compensation when recommending other experts services or products.